LOVER Language (revisited)

After watching Pillow Talk (Channel 8, 9pm drama series), I suddenly 'remembered' the musical Hubby & I went to watch last year. Please see link below:

Summer 夏天: LOVER Language: Attended one of this event under Real Love Works 2011. It's night filled with songs, music, laughter and LOVE :) BB has nv been to watch a...

It is true that in many relationship, we forgot that we need to continue to deposit love after marriage. We only keep withdrawing the love we had saved up before marriage. Everyone has their preferred way to be love and to love. For me, I'm a bit greedy cos I love to be loved in every way :P

In order to sustain a relationship, even if one party knows how to talk the Lover language but the other party doesn't, it ends up one is depositing and the other withdrawing. The balance is zero. It takes 2 to tango, while you want your partner to love you, you need to love your partner too.

I know my hubby shower me with his love by helping me to do some household chores at times, he also takes note of what craving I have and bring me to eat or bring me out for movie when I need a movie therapy. If he could buy me little gifts to surprise me, that will be my bonus :D

I realized that my hubby is all I see (and our precious prince). I not longer check out cute guys or even notice them. I used to remember faces very well, even though I may not remember their names, but now, I didn't even bother to register their looks. They mean the world to me now.

To all my readers: Say the Lover language everyday. Keep the fire burning. And stay blissful :)

Job Search

I have been searching for a job ever since I was on confinement. Until now, I have no luck in securing a job :( I've been to 3 interviews so far. 2 from the government sector and 1 from the pte. The first one all seems to be going well until they told me that they going to relocate to Jurong!! I nearly fainted on the spot. Sigh... The 2nd one is like a boring job. Although the title says Manager but I have no kah kias to do the ground work for me. I have to do everything from A-Z myself! The Manager is to manage the accounts, not staff. The 3rd interview was yesterday. I was so desperately in need of a job, I just spam my resumes at any job offer which I fits the requirement last week. And this company called me up for interview. All was going well again when thunder struck me again :( As pte companies are very different from govt, one don't get to knock off on time. The interviewer stressed that I will have to commit a lot of time and effort on the job. With my newborn, would I be able to commit such hours to build up my career? I know I can't bear to leave my precious at home and chiong my career. I just need a job to get some supplementary income. Getting far and moving up is not my concern now. I need a job that provides stability and enables me to have work-life balance. A govt job fits the bill perfectly. But so far no luck on that. Or they are simply too slow in processing.... They can be as slow as waited until 2 months later then inform you that you are hired! But I cannot leave that to chance. What if I'm not hired? I just need to continue searching.

Something which the interviewer said yesterday made me really upset. She's just one year older than me. But earning many times more than I do. She posted me a question, "Did you find that you are being underpaid by drawing a pay of $3700 previously?" Of cos I did. But it's a trade-off. While I spent 6 years in the govt sector I get to knock off on time at 6 and enjoy life outside work. Whereby my peers are still slogging away in office. But 6 years later, I'm still nothing whereby they have already reached their peak in their careers like becoming AVPs, Senior Managers, etc. They traded their time to achieve these and now they get to enjoy the fruit from their hard work when they are young. Somehow I had the feeling that I had chosen the wrong career path back then. Wasting 6 years of my time in achieving nothing. My working experience is worth nothing and I can't get any job. Not even back in the govt sector.

The only and best thing which happened to me from choosing to work in the govt sector is that I have my doting hubby and lovely son now. So what do I want in life? Is is true that we cannot have a blissful family and be a high achiever in our career? If I really have to choose between the 2, I will still choose my family. So now, even if I have to suffer a heavy pay cut to secure a job, I'll still take it. With all the expenses a child needs and our flat coming soon, everything needs money. I don't need a lot, just enough for everything essential, I'm contented. Buddha, Jesus, Allah, all the Gods and deities, please please let me ace the next interview and bring back the dough soon. I mean real soon...

Date Night

It's been a long time since Hubby and I went par tor. Ever since the arrival of our prince, 99.9% of our time was dedicated to him. Rare chance like this is hard to come by. It's the first time we actually did planning for our date. Haha. We book tickets for the movie and made reservation at the restaurant. All was left was just to look forward to it :)

Took this on my way to meet hubby. I look so slim from the reflection. Haha. It's just so deceiving....

Hubby says he looks yan dao in this photo so asked me to post this.

Dinner was at Modesto's. Regretted eating so much of this bread :( End up I couldn't finish the main dish...

White wine for Hubby & Sangria for me :)

Salmon Pizza. It's gooood.... Recommended.

This is even better!! Their signature linguinie. This is 1 pax portion but like a big only!!

We ate and we chatted. Love the twosome moments. After dinner was movie. We watched The Vow, chosen by me :D The storyline was based on a true story. Predictable storyline but pretty touching. Hubby commented that if he's the male lead, he would have gone crazy if that were to happen to us. He also said that he might not have as much patience as the guy to win back his wife's heart. It would be so scary if I were to wake up and don't remember my hubby and my prince... Oh no!!!

Hubby says we should do this once a month :D I agree. After having kids, couples should still have some couple time to enhance the relationship and reconnect. Sometimes we are too overwhelmed by work stress and kids, we lost the passion. It takes effort and energy to keep the fire burning and fall in love with each other again and again. I'm glad my hubby thinks the same way as me. I know this time round, I'm going to be very very very blissful...

Motherhood

10 weeks into my motherhood. I'm still recovering from the shock. LOL! Baby is doing great and starting to gugu-gaga with me :) He's also smiling more often now.

Brought him to KKH for his checkup on Monday. He actually smiled so sweetly at the female doctor. He's my boy indeed! Actually know how to charm girls with his mesmerizing smile at such a young age. Haha! He weighs 5 kg now. Doubled his weight in 2 months time. How times flies and how fast he grows!!

I enjoyed bathing him every morning. Something I'm gonna miss when I go back to work :( I just feel so happy every time when I see him enjoying his SPA session. He always bathe until didn't want to come out of the tub.

Being a mum myself now made me appreciate my mum more. She used to tell me, "Wait till you are a mum yourself then you'll know." Now I really know. The sacrifices mums make for their children is nothing can be compared de. I'm amazed with myself that I can actually sleep so little every night taking care of him. Some nights I only got to sleep 2-3 hours.

Seems like I can't finish this post ncely again. He's making a fuss again :(