Why choose to leave when you cannot let go?

There are simply too many breakups around me lately. Including myself is a victim of this breakup hurricane. When I think Mr Ex's reason is lame, and feel really 'bu gan yuan' over it, I heard others who are worse off. Somehow it made me felt better?

This gf of mine, her mum juz passed away. The bf went MIA. She called him the day b4 her mum passed away and asked him to accompany her to the hospital to see her mum one last time and she need his support. He refused. The only reason he gave was, "I just don't feel like it. Don't force me." After that he went MIA. *poof* simply disappeared! He didn't pick up her calls, didn't reply her smses... Even when mutual frens ask him to attend the wake, he said he's not free. What kind of bf is this? Left without a word when she was at her lowest. Some guys are really bas*ards!

A guy fren of mine, his gf left him and got attached to another guy. But she's still be affected by how he feels and what he posts on FB. His comments make her feel hurt. If you choose to leave den leave. Why still some and stir up the emotions making my fren feel that there's hope? Bringing him thr a roller coaster ride. I've been thr the roller coaster, I know how terrible it feels. It's not easy to stand up again and move on.

I am moving on with my life. Though I'm like a toddler learning how to walk now, I know I will be able to run, jump and hop in time to come. Sometimes, I feel that he's the one who hasn't got over it. Still having the perception that I still feel for him and want us to be back together. Delibrately wanting to keep a distance, talking like as though I owe him de. Wanting me to hate him. Why should I hate him? Hating someone is tiring. Having no feelings towards the person is best way out. I no longer feel the love, neither do I feel hatred. My emptiness is the lack of a companion. Someone to be there for me. It's different from a fren being there. I don't know how to explain the difference. It's a special feel.