"Hearts are like wind. Though they may be diverted, they can't be stopped. Altering the way we thing about people is one thing, but trying to change the way you feel about them is impossible. In fact, trying to eliminate them seems to redouble their influence. The more people defend against their unwanted feelings the more they drive away the resources available to overcome them." - quoted from Learning from a Shrink

Like & Love can't be measured. It's a feeling. Being rational and following your heart will lead you to different destination. Hearing the story frm my fren, I dunno wat advice I cn give her. I cn onli listen. She's stuck in a dilemma to choose between 2 men.

M1 is nice and sweet. She cn feel tat he likes her alot n hope to brg the r/s to e next level. Though she feels comfortable wif him n cn talk like old frens. But something somehow is missing in the r/s. When he kiss her, she cnt sense e link, the chemistry is missing. A very decent guy wif stable job n filial. Everything is fine juz e chemistry part is bothering her. She sux at rejection even though she had her reservation towards him. It takes a lot of courage to confess one's feeling, she tinks it's too cruel to turn him dwn. There's no feel of the 'honeymoon period' when they started out whereby couples fall head over heels over each other during e initial stage. The feel is like they hav been together for ages when e r/s is onli weeks old.

M2, the first time she saw him, she has this unexplanable feeling towards him. She cant help but smile stupidly to herself. She cn juz sit there n listen to him talk abt his interest, his life, etc. She nv told him abt her thuts abt certain things, when he comment on those topics, his thuts are juz like hers. She din admit, she juz listen to him talk. He wld pull e chair for her, open e door for her, offered to help her cut her chicken chop... tat's realli very sweet of him. He currently unemployed, financially unstable. So he's not confident of himself. He thut, "how to survive in e current society w/o bread? Maybe she will find someone better..." When he kiss her, she juz melt in his kiss n everything like come to a standstill, lost in his kiss...

The worst thing is both come at e same time. Putting her at a fixed. I see at her like tat, I oso dunno wat to do. Cos if I'm her, I'll feel so stuck too. To tink rationally, she shld choose M1 but if to follow her heart is to be wif M2. I hate this kind of thing. I sux too. So I cn onli lend her my ear :( give her my hugs...